Learn realistic, simple, actionable steps to create a fulfilled, productive, and engaging life for yourself, framed through Saya's relatable personal experiences and philosophies. Saya uses charisma, humor, vulnerability, and a dash of TMI to breathe fresh air on universal, age-old topics we all grapple with. Career! Love! Friends! Community! Finances! Adulthood! So much to get right! Everyone else is perfect!
Through her candid stories of success and failure, she'll help you navigate the overwhelming aspects of life, spark those "a-ha" moments, and inspire you to embrace the challenges, even when they seem scary. Together, we'll adopt a proactive perspective that shows life can be both easy and joyful, even during those inevitable periods of "blerg," as long as you design it that way.
Speaker: Saya Hillman, Head Cheese-It,
Mac & Cheese Productions℠Transcription"
Tricia Tran (00:07):
Good morning everyone. My name is Tricia Tran and I lead the financial services industry vertical at ServiceNow. I'm actually standing in for one of my colleagues who decided that he had to make a choice. He has a very sick 4-year-old daughter. His wife is traveling, and so he made the choice to stay home today to take care of her, which I think is a beautiful thing to do in a family of two working parents. So here I am. I wanted to share a little bit about how ServiceNow has transformed and continues to transform the insurance industry. We are the intelligent platform for digital transformation used by over 400 insurance companies globally to intelligently automate processes and services across the enterprise so we can all create the future of insurance that we imagine. Today I have the distinct honor of introducing our opening keynote life of Yes, design A Life that fits to be delivered by Saya Hillman Head Cheese-It at Mac and Cheese Productions.
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This is, by the way, one of the best written bios I've ever read and have the pleasure of sharing with you today. You know all those things that are just the worst. Networking, sales, self-promotion, public speaking, pricing, saying no, setting boundaries, making asks, working with frustrating people, dating, cleaning to-do lists, email death, doing things that scare you, doing things that you're not good at, doing things you have no business doing, things that you don't want to do but have to do. And lastly, remembering which filter needs changing and when Saya Hillman makes all of those things less worse, even enjoyable, called accessible Oprah. Saya has run her lifestyle business, Mac and Cheese Productions since 2004. Mac and cheese transforms adulting into a good thing by creating spaces that build connection to others, to opportunities and to self through events, courses, keynotes, workplace facilitation products, one-on-one consulting group, coaching writings and community Mac and Cheese inspires people to learn, grow, and become better versions of themselves to redefine success and to design their lives to best fit themselves.
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AKA designed their life of yes think adult recitals, adult kindergarten, adult summer camp in Evanston, Illinois, native Montessori and Boston College graduate. And Chicago resident Saya's joyful and self-Assured Wallflower turned Wildflower who spent 10 months in the womb, was born at home alone on purpose, and was raised by an entrepreneurial odd duck single mom. She was one of brazen career's. Top 20 young professionals to watch has been featured in Forbes and New York Times and is a TEDx speaker and a wannabe New York Times bestselling author. Finishing her memoir is a slippery little sucker. Please join me in welcoming Saya to the stage.
Saya Hillman (04:03):
Thank you, Tricia. That was lovely. Who's proud of the Montessori school they went to when they were five? Me? That's me. Any other Montessori lawmen here? No. Oh, yay. Okay. Hi. Hi. I'm Saya and I am so honored to be here. Thank you Arizent Digital Insurance, ServiceNow, Tricia, for gifting me this opportunity to be with you all. And thanks to all of you all for investing in yourselves today by choosing to prioritize community and celebration and personal and professional growth. So my connection to the insurance industry is A, I have insurance. B, I can spell insurance, and C, I have this placating slide insurance. Yay. So why am I here? I'm hoping that my ramblings today will have thinking she's quirky, she's different than me, but yeah, I can probably apply some scientists to my life and see some fruitful results crossing fingers. If you're the type of person that cannot concentrate on a presentation, unless you know if you're going to get the slides, you will get the slides afterwards in an email.
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So look for those. Okay, here we go. At this stage of life, it is increasingly common to be in a conversation between friends where it soon becomes clear that everyone is tired, furious with their spouse and astonished either that the choices they made have led them to the place they are, or that the place they've chosen to be is so much less satisfying than they'd imagined it. When I read this, I nodded incessantly because that was me and also OMG. Someone else feels this way. Too often we feel that we are the only one dissatisfied in life, that there's something wrong with us, that everybody else is winning. And too often we pine for what used to be and we give up on now and tomorrow. And that made me sad for myself. So I made the not rocket science decision that I didn't want to be sad and I chose to have a growth mindset.
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And adopting this mindset was all empowering and infecting others with that empowerment is what drives me, and I infect others by providing steps to live a life of yes. And I want to share the story of the birth of life of yes, because it epitomizes what we're going to cover today, designing a life that fits you. So I became enamored with the idea of being a speaker. Travel all expenses covered, get paid to share my joy. Yes, please, nevermind that I have no credentials or any clue about how to be a speaker. Nevermind that my talks are not about curing diseases or eradicating poverty. Nevermind that every time I'm in front of an audience, I am sweating profusely. My heart is racing. I am worrying right now that you are judging me and hating me. And tweeting mean things about me using my own life of yes, hashtag, nevermind all that because I wear why not pants?
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Why can't I be a professional speaker? So I made a higher me speak page on my website and I thought, what's the worst that could happen? No one contacts me and I lose the 15 minutes that it took me to create the page. Two days after I created that page via that page, the organizer of a conference reached out and asked me to be a speaker, and the conference roster included an MTV VJ, the inventor of the touchscreen. If you all remember the weird mechanical bear from the 1980s Teddy Ruxpin, the inventor of Teddy Ruxpin, CEOs of Mulkin, Walt Disney, a surgical roboticist and me, which one of these things doesn't belong, but why not? And that's how I became a speaker and a TEDx curator saw me listed on that conference's website and reached out to see if I wanted to present, which is how I ended up wearing one of those.
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Sexy Madonna had set my center stage of what many considered to be the cream of the crop of speaking gigs. And that Teddy Reman conference was when life of Yes was born and my life morphed from a life I aspire to into a life that I wanted, but I want to be on the same page of honesty with everybody. My life is not perfect. I am 45 and I have the 401k of a 4-year-old. I have hair growing in places I wish it wouldn't grow. I have been rejected from accelerators in writing programs and scholarships and jobs and friends and guys I liked once I ate some cookies and out of disgust for eating so many cookies, I threw the rest in the trash and I ate those trash cookies. 20 minutes later, I'm a great writer with a great story and a great platform and years of people telling me I should write a book and years of attempting to write that book, and yet that book has not happened.
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Complicated relationship with my mother, which included five years of estrangement where even though I only lived 25 minutes away from her, didn't see or talk to her five years and she actually just passed away. And of course I had the feelings of sadness and grief, but I also had feelings of anger and relief. You're not supposed to have those feelings about your mom, especially when she passes away. So complicated relationship with mom. I once went to visit a guy's family, a guy who I liked, like his family. Very nervous holidays. It was in a foreign land. It was in the south, it was in Louisiana. I am a Yankee. I don't know what happens down there. So high nerves, very nervous Christmas dinner. We are all sitting 15 of us in the living room watching football, TMI, but I feel that we are all combined ratio besties right now.
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I'm going to Cher, TMI living room right here watching football, 15 of us bathroom right here. I had to go to the bathroom after Christmas dinner and I ended up needing a plunger. There was no plunger in the bathroom, so I got to walk into the living room and say to his mom, could you come in the kitchen with me where I got to whisper the words? Do you have a plunger? Which would've been mortifying enough, but then I had to walk with said plunger through the living room in front of everybody I could spend our entire time together sharing stories of stress and failure and embarrassment and sadness. Crap happens literally even to me, the poster child of bliss. But I don't let crap moments turn into crap lifetime. A life without bumps does not exist, but that's okay if you are living a life of yes, when you are a life of yes or you know that not only will you overcome the bumps, you will probably find ways to turn them into good. So I'm going to share 10 steps in how you can design your life of yes, one that embraces the ups and the downs. So step one and how to design a life that fits where why not pants. You've already heard an example of what this has done for me, so I'm not going to spend more time here. Just know that I have tons more examples of why not fabulousness and to remember when you hear your inner voice whisper, I can't to whisper back. Why not? So in thinking of all areas of your life,
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What would you do if you said, why not instead of I can't. What would you do if you said, why not instead of I can't? Step two, we overvalue what we don't have and we undervalue what we do have. We overvalue the condo, the romantic partner, the size of the pants that we wear, the salary, the degree. You can still be fabulous if you rent. If you're single, you don't have a master's if your belly jiggles. And then we undervalue our skills, our interests, our accomplishments, our personality traits. You may not think that cooking without a recipe or being able to do confident math, you may not think that those are sexy, but for somebody who cannot do either of those things, my heart skips a beat for you. How you are as is a gift, but we just don't often treat ourselves as such.
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To value yourself, you need to know yourself, your youness. You want to think of what you're naturally good at, what others admire in you, what others Thank you for what you may not even think of as a scale because it comes so easily to you or as wisdom because it seems so commonsensical. What you deem as no biggie may be of great help and inspiration to others. Using my meanness of being able to make people feel comfortable and uncomfortable. Situations, I facilitate connections of at gatherings of strangers to looking to expand their networks. And the one caveat is that everybody comes solo. This levels the playing field where you are all the new kid if everybody's alone. And at the mingler shown here, a guest mentioned how he had created a spreadsheet ranking all the barbecue restaurants in Chicago. And if there are two things, I love it is barbecue and spreadsheet together, treat that mingler was in 2009 and barbecue spreadsheet guy is now vegan husband. I was not trying and this is where I feel like I should and he is unveiled, he's not here. But if the lesson that I took away from this was I was not trying to impress anybody, I was sweaty chopping cheese and encouraging conversation as I do and someone found me in my natural state. Appealing using your units to help others is not only incredibly satisfying. More often than not both sides benefit which lends itself to the most life of yes, scenario a win-win.
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What is your Eunice? What's your as isness, what's your Eunice? What's your as isness? An example of literal valuing yourself pricing what to charge. One of the most common struggles of business owners, entrepreneurs, freelancers, 99% of the time they are undercharging, especially women and people of color. When you are asked for a quote, come up with a number that feels good, whatever arbitrary number that is, and immediately at a zero and send the quote before you have time to talk yourself out of it. Yes, I am literally talking about pricing here, but big picture, I'm talking about valuing yourself and helping others value you. So even if pricing doesn't apply to you, it applies to you. Where can you add a zero? Where can you add a zero? Step three, create your recipe. These are some of the ingredients I've identified as being important for me to have.
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And when creating my recipe, I found it helpful to get as specific as possible to not just say I want to be happy, but to specify how I'll attain happiness. To not just say I want to be successful, but to specify what success looks like and thus I am super specific in all areas of my life. When I got fired from my last nine to five, I had no idea what I wanted to do. So I made a list of things. No matter how ridiculous they sounded, I wished I could get paid for. And everything on that list is now part of my 20-year-old business today, even the ridiculous ones. In prep for moving, I created a home criteria list, ridiculously specific and narrow desires. Four block radius in which I was willing to live. Being so open-minded, my friends all looked at me and said, yeah, foolish.
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Good luck with that. When I was single, I created a buffering criteria list smells like campfire, knows when to use your versus your Carries a design filled tube across his back, eats meat named Aiden. British accent knows who Sylvia Pojo is, has a bike messenger bag but is not a bike. Messenger plays guitar, has a computer at home, preferably a Mac with a printer, bonus six two or taller. He can put his phone away away. He can hammer stuff, good direction, sense on time. Bed isn't in the corner, no roommates duty, college creative type with health insurance does yoga, et cetera. There's a lot more on this list. It's really good. My friends all looked at me like I was foolish. Good luck, Saya. But I found a home which, and I have a husband whom both exceed what I ever envisioned. Wife has a way of falling into place when you tell life what you want and when you look up the ladder of success, what's at the top? Is it the stereotypical six figure salary, the BMW Fancy Wardrobe, caviar Dinner stock portfolio or is it something else? Identify your life of yes ingredients so you know your definition of success. What are your life of yes ingredients? What are your life of yes ingredients?
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Step four. For one night I wanted to be a Broadway star and dance on stage in front of a pain audience, but I lack all Broadway stars skills and who is going to pay to see me dance badly by myself, but they may pay to see a group of people dance badly challenging themselves to get out of their comfort zone. I like to do three things and I like to connect people. So I gathered 16 friends who didn't know each other as a way to help friends make friends. I hired a choreographer, I rented a studio and I called it Dance Experiment. And the criteria to today was that you had to be bad at dancing solo and scared we often pleasantly surprise ourselves when faced with challenges. We rehearsed for three months and performed in front of a sold out, sold out pain audience of 350 and I crossed dance badly in front of a pain audience off of my life to-do list and I prepared to move on to my next thing. But then I started getting inquiries about dance experiment too. I was like dance experiment too. There is oh dance experiment too, but when the masses demand something, dance experiment became fear experiment. One to two shows a year in front of sold out audiences, 700 we had to move to a larger theater, six art forums, dance improv, acapella stepping Broadway and storytelling. Over 400 people have participated in Fear Experiment. 7,000 people have paid to be in the audience and I netted over $150,000 profit from what is basically an adult recital. Thank you.
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You've got something good when you get recognized on a jumbotron, which we have been multiple times. One of the times I wasn't fast enough with my camera, unfortunately at a football game it said Northwestern University welcomes fear equipment to the game, but it's the thought that counts. And all of this goodness happened because I embraced my suckage. How can you embrace your suckage? How can you embrace a fear? Step five of 10 in how to design a life that fits. Imagine that you are 6-year-old, you and I ask you to draw me a horse and you excitedly run off and then you excitedly run back. Look at my horse as opposed to if I asked current you to draw me a horse.
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If you are a perfectionist, an over analyzer, a people pleaser, an excuse maker, you are making life hard and less fun on yourself and you need what we had as kids. Do yourself a favor and take an improv class. It is one of the worst, best, most horrible, enjoyable ways to revert to the golden parts of childhood. And the skills you learn in improv are applicable to every area of life. So how can you be more kid-like? And while I hope that every single one of you after today will go and actually sign up for an improv class, I'm realistic. Not everybody will do that, but you can be kid-like in other ways you can get that kid likeness other ways. So what's your improv class? How can you be more kid-like what's your improv class?
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Since entering the real world, I have missed the environment of college retreats and summer camp where you had immediate bonding with people from all walks of life time away to meet and connect with others and time to recharge and play and to reflect. And I could not find anything like that for adults. So I rented six cabins in the 15 passenger van. Spread the word that I was having a life of yes camp. Having no clue what that meant. I would figure it out if someone signed up and then I crossed my fingers that I would not be on the hook for lots of money that I did not have. More people were interested than I could accept and that weekend was one of the most memorable experiences of my life and seemingly from the feedback I got the same for the campers and life of yes, sleepaway camp became one of my main offerings with campers coming into Chicago from New York and LA Houston and The Unplugged, everybody comes solo weekends we're featured in New York Times Self magazine, Forbes, all because I acted before I was ready. Have you been waiting for the perfect time to take that trip, apply for that promotion, suggest that out of the box idea it is not coming. Stop waiting for the perfect time. Unicorn or her cousin's more time and better time. Nike the bejesus out of life, just do it. Whatever it is, doing it regardless of the outcome is much better than wanting to do it or wishing you had done it. So what can you, Nike, what can you Nike?
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Step seven of 10 is to repeat. I have choice. I have choice. When I was fired, I initially said I got let go because let go feels less personal, less my fault that I or more that I was just an unfortunate casualty and fired is all me. My inabilities, my failure, my shame. But the more I voice my truthful journey, the more heads nod, fertilized I feel. So I didn't have choice in getting fired, but I had choice in now what? I can now say that getting fired was the best thing that's happened to me in my 45 years. The catalyst for so many of my other best, I learned how life could be when I was given a redo a blank slate. And life has never fit me better. We are wherever and whomever we choose to be.
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So where would it be beneficial for you to remember you have choice? Where would it be beneficial for you to remember you have choice? Another as is trait of mine that I value is that I am good at asking myself what would this look like if it were easy and then taking appropriate action. And this sexy question removes complexity and underlines that most singular tasks are fundamentally simple. This is my home and these are places that I frequent on a regular basis and they are all by design in a five to 15 minute walk radius, you may not be able to make tasks like going to the dentist enjoyable, but you can make them less painful to get a cavity filled. Do you want to sit in horrible 45 minute traffic or take a seven minute walk getting fresh air, getting a little bit of cardio, appreciating your neighborhood?
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I need to make going to the gym ridiculously easy. Otherwise I will not go if I have to take a bus or look for parking or if it's snowing or if it's cold or I will not go to that gym. So I set myself up for success by making everydayness easy. A concept that I adore is the stop doing list and its roots are in the idea that many of us are busy doing things that don't matter, that there are things that we should stop doing in order to get more done and to be more fulfilled. Some examples of mine when on a cardio machine, I would mindlessly scroll my phone when listening to a podcast and then inevitably miss something that I wanted to hear and spend stupid time rewinding and re-listening. No more saying, sorry it took me so long to get back to you. When it's been an hour a day, three days, not only are you not in the wrong, by not immediately responding, you are training others to think that you are in the wrong by not immediately responding. It is okay to live a slower life.
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I shouldn't buy this Starbucks, I should make coffee at home. I shouldn't get this pedicure. I should do my own nails. I shouldn't eat at this restaurant. I should eat what's in the fridge. I could do my taxes, I could hang my own tv. I could shop veggies. Even though those all sound like the worst thing ever, no more. It is okay to pay for something that you don't need. It is okay to pay someone to do something that you could DIY. There are also things you should do. A lot of really boring, unsexy things that while not fun per se, the amount of time and headache that you'll save yourself if you just do them is immeasurable. So a few small and nuanced examples. Put all your recurring tasks, your life tasks in your to-do list so that you never have to remember, but you also never forget tasks like canceling services that you no longer want before they auto-renew Internet cable, Netflix, changing your filters.
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Hvac fi, humidifier, dishwasher. Did you know that dishwashers have filters? I just learned this as a 43-year-old adult. If you have one takeaway from shade, go home and check to see if your dishwasher has a filter. Washing your bedding, kitchen, dish towel, bathroom towels. I used to do this for all of these and tons more recurring tasks makes life so much easier. Keep detailed notes of something that you have to repeatedly do, but with long breaks in between because even though you tell yourself you will remember how to x, y, z in six months or a year, you will not. So notes like to do before and after a trip. So not just what to pack, but things like turn off your surge protectors and download podcasts. The eBooks, move the car for street sweeping, watering the plants and notes on how to file government forms like taxes and trademarks, how to wash your dishwasher filter, how to make website changes.
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It sucks in a moment of creation to type all of that detail, but you're so grateful when the following year rolls around and you don't have to waste time remembering how to do dumb things. I use notion for all of my detailed how-tos. Being strategic, organized, and efficient is sexy so that you can use your time, your resources, your brain space for fun stuff. Another way to make life easier. I'm a huge proponent of removing noise in our lives. Interruptions, distractions, unnecessary, being busy with the wrong things. Imagine that you get this message and imagine the resulting back and forth. Okay, should we reschedule? Yeah, what works for you? How about Tuesday? Oh no, that doesn't work for me Wednesday. Sure, what time? Same time. Great. Same place or Yeah, same place. Great. See you Wednesday. Wait, did you mean this Wednesday or next Wednesday?
Saya Hillman (26:53):
A better message. Better, better blast. I have to cancel next week. Let's reschedule. Could you do any below same time in place? Hopefully with this one email I'll get one response and the goal will have been attained. You can achieve ease. So simply yet with huge impact. These examples on their own, again, I know may seem very tiny and unsexy, but they add up. I could give you 853 more examples of tiny tweaks I have made to my life, which is why my life fits me so perfectly. I design it to be what I want it to be. So in what tiny unsexy ways can you make life easier on self and others? In what tiny unsexy ways can you make life easier on self and others? Step nine, give yourself permission. Permission to think highly of and promote yourself to be celebrated, to take a leap, decide the leap isn't for you and go back to want and make money to change direction.
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Prioritize yourself, be down or negative. Stick out. Say no, want to be cared about, want to belong? Ask, be a party of one. Show your cracks, have joy and share joy and take a selfish sabbatical. A few of them I want to highlight. Step nine H. It is okay advantageous even to stick out. So to challenge myself, I decided to speak at a purposefully unstructured technology conference and I was completely out of my element, the entirety of my presentation. The bulk of the audience were on their laptops and I'm pretty sure they were buying, they were on eBay, buying extra ram for their hard drives or whatever tech people do. I don't know what tech people do, but I just know that they were not taking notes about how inspiring I was being. But when I got to my boyfriend criteria list, one of 'em actually looked up at me, made eye contact and said, so would you want him to smell like campfire some of the time or all of the time? Turns out he was a chemical engineer and a few months later he showed up at one of my mingers and gifted me a vial of campfire cologne.
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He even started selling it online. This is a screenshot from his website. So unlike in middle school where being different is the end of the world in adulthood, sticking out is a good thing. Much of the press I have gotten over the years has been because I am not your run of the mail entrepreneur, no outside funding, no MBA, no business plan. I look and I act different than many of my peers. Speaking of press whoopsy, I got what was basically a cease and desist letter from the licensing firm that represents a New York Times, Huffington Post and Forbes for their use of their logos, asking for $1,500 per logo to which I snorted, did some digging to make sure it was actually a legit firm and request. And upon learning that, yes it was, I altered my website so I couldn't be sued, but could still share that I was in the New York Times.
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And this is true, you can go to my website and check it. Step nine I, It is okay to say no. One of the most common discussions amongst my peers is some variation of how do you respond to coffee requests. They used to be a huge source of stress for me. On one hand, how flattering but stress because I felt like a horrible person saying no, but I really, really, really, really, really did not want to add another coffee to my calendar. So I figured out a solution that has worked wonderfully for years using the templates Gmail add-on. I have already written copy that I send to most coffee requesters that I will customize it a tiny bit, say no in a way that is nice and helpful and truthful, and then two clicks later sent off my plate and off my mind. Bottom line, you have to do what best fits you.
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Even if that means saying the word that seemingly is the complete opposite of everything you stand for, and it's a lot easier to say no if you make the no easy to say. Step nine n, It is good to show your cracks. There is a Japanese art form called tsui, which means joining with gold where broken pottery is repaired with a powdered gold coating leaving a shiny seam where the cracks were. So not only are blemishes and repair accepted, they are highlighted, yes. Don't try to make your life appear perfect. It is your imperfections that make you a goodness magnet. As soon as you voice your debt, your loneliness, infertility, social anxiety, lack of directions, your stretch marks, others are going to say Me too. And a group of people echoing one another is a group of authenticity and safety and growth. And if you are willing to be vulnerable, I guarantee that you will experience empowerment, community, and a full heart of all of these, including ones I did not spotlight.
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Which one jumps out at you? Start there. Where can you give yourself permission? Where can you give yourself permission? The final step in designing life to fit you. What's celebrated when you die is not often what's celebrated when you are alive. Eulogies, don't mention senior vice president. Titles exposed brick, condos, eulogies are the other stuff, the fluffy stuff or as Ariana Huffington terms it. The third me, you want to envision your life of yes, eulogy what you want said at the end of your life and then live to make it true now. So how can you live for your eulogy now? How can you live for your eulogy now in case it's helpful to think about designing a life of yes in another way. Ikigai is another Japanese term that means reason for B. It's life of yes. In a Venn diagram, be still my type A nerd heart.
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If you ever feel stuck in how to create a life of yes, I would love for you to ask yourself what areas of my life could be easier? What am I nostalgic for? What in whom do I envy? What do I and others struggle with? What am I good at that others struggle with? How can I be in service to others? What can I create with what I have? How can I make myself and others feel good? How can I act now? How can I put a life of yes spin on X, Y, Z? How can I create a win-win? What do I want set at my funeral? What's great about being an adult? What's hard about being an adult? How can I show myself grace? When do I feel comfortable being myself? What depletes my energy? What increases my energy? What's on my stop doing list? What feels enormous, paralyzing, overwhelming? What's a baby step I can take? What's a smart step I can take? What and whom should I let go? What stress is self-created? What does my definition of success look like? What would x, y, z look like if it were easy? And what's the worst that could happen? In your reflection, you will find direction and ahas an inspiration for you to design your life of yes.
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For me, the greatest gift that this lifestyle provides is that I get to experience close to my ideal day every day. And ideal means I have autonomy and choice and that control provides me the thing that's most important to me. Quality of life, all my decisions optimize for quality of life at the expense of everything else. So that's it. 10 steps to making life fit so easy, right? No, it's easy and it's hard. That's adulthood. You want to figure out who you are so you can figure out where you're going and how to get there and to have fun along the way. I have some homework for you and I have never met Patti before, but this is Patti and Saya homework. We're talking about the same thing here. I would love for you. We would love for you Meg, Patti and I would love for you to get out of your comfort zone and talk to a stranger.
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Talk to five strangers today and permission to use me in doing the homework. Oh my God, I'm doing say's stupid homework. I'm blah blah, blah. Mind if I sit here, totally throw me under the bus. Totally cool. Love that For your teachers, you teachers, pets out there who want bonus points and gold stars, take a selfie with a stranger and put it somewhere and tag me so I can see it. I'm going to end with a white bulb moment I had where I went to an improv show and as I was watching the show, a woman in the show accidentally fell off the stage. So for the rest of the show, her teammates would randomly, purposefully fall off the stage so that it looked like what she had done was not a mistake, but all part of the plan. And imagine if you were in a supportive, no fear environment like that on a regular basis, what you and those around you could accomplish and feel.
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So you want to design a life where you are not afraid to fall off the stage either on accident or on purpose. So I hope you have eating cookies from the trash moments, and I hope you have barbecue spreadsheet, campfire cologne moments, and a journey where both of those moments mesh harmoniously. If you have any questions or you just want to share your boyfriend or girlfriend criteria list with me. I'm going to be back at Meg's 2 45, pass the mic session. Great opportunity to do that. Thank you all for listening to my hopefully applicable Ionist Combined Ratio. Go team. Thank you.